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Saturday, May 8, 2010

Our First Hapa Birthday Party

I'm so excited! A few days ago I received an invite to a birthday party for our hapa friend W. This is Daniel first birthday party invite! We're happy it's for a friends since we use to have play dates with him and his mom (who's blasian). These days work and life has kept us from hanging out with them lately. But with this party we'll get a chance to catch up. Plus I'll get to meet the new hapa addition to their family...a baby girl!


The party was outside in the playground so finding it wasn't hard. Once there Daniel took off to play with the other kids and I went to socialize. I saw the new baby and of course she's adorable. I met W's grandma who's Korean (sweet lady) and chuckled with W's mom that she was allowed out of the house. It's a Korean (Asian) thing that women who recently gave birth shouldn't go outside with the baby for months.

Then I met a few of the other parents at the party. One mom in particular, a white women with a black little girl, caught my eye and after sneaking glances at each other we finally chatted. I asked if had a domestic adoption but she explained her daughter is from Africa. She didn't ask if I adopted but she did mention feeling like she saw me (us) somewhere before. I joked we're all over the internet so maybe she did.



I then went in search of Daniel who was running wild around the play ground. It took some chasing after him but I caught him and settled him down with some pizza and juice. After our snack I started a game of soccer with him. I'd kick the ball while he tried to grab it. I guess our game looked fun cause W's dad joined us to play. We kicked the ball back and forth chatting about life with a new baby and all that while Daniel got a serious workout...trying to catch the ball.

Eventually the party ended and we got ready to go. As we packed up I thought how wonderful to spend time with friends as a normal mixed race family enjoying the day. Nearly everyone at the party was interracial/mixed race with biracial kids so I didn't feel like I was standing out. Daniel and I blended right in which is a welcome and happy feeling.

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4 comments:

Anonymous
at: May 18, 2010 at 1:26 PM said...

so it's ok for you to asks if a mom's child is adopted but not the other way around??? that hypocritcal. so wat that girl could have been her stepchild not only just adopted.

always judgeing people and you do the same damm thing they do. shit knows shit.

Sheila Greene-Dartley says:
at: May 18, 2010 at 4:24 PM said...

It was nice to have you at our party, Nikki! See you soon!- Sheila

Nikki @ Mommy Factor says:
at: May 19, 2010 at 12:53 PM said...

Anon, if you dont like me or my blog then please dont visit or comment!

Sheila, You'll def see us soon. We had a blast :)

M says:
at: May 19, 2010 at 9:15 PM said...

The party sounds like a very nice outing. You must of had a wonderful time. When I was younger I use to care for a child who was biracial Mother White, Father Black but looking at her you wouldn't know it. She looks like a "Black" child. I too thought she was adopted but didn't dare inquire as I thought she may take my question the wrong way. Later I learned that she ( her mom ) indeed gave birth to her. It just goes to show that whites, blacks, who ever can infact give birth to children that can take more of the other parents features. I was very surprised though, Just seems she took more of her dads features then she took of her moms I guess. Ook I'm rambling on & on, don't know why I felt the need to mention this :)