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Thursday, May 26, 2011

I don't need a "child free" break

My family complains that I always want to spend time with my son. Like this is a bad thing? They don't seem to understand why I'm not interested in leaving him with them so I can get some time to myself. It's to the point that when he goes for a visit they sorta kidnap him. One visit turns into a 3 day sleepover.
mom and son on steps
Last night I had to insist on picking him up so he can sleep at home with me. But tonight I'm childless because they insisted on keeping him. They like to mention that it's ok to take a break. Everyone likes to point this out to me.

But no one asked me if I wanted a break. If they did then they'd know, I don't need or want a break. I'm happy spending all my time with my son. This is my life and I chose it so let me enjoy what I can before he becomes to grown to hang with his mom

Tonight I went to do my son's laundry because sitting in a quiet apt all lone sucks. I figured better to be productive and use my time wisely but looking at his clothes just hanging there made me sad. Like most things, this is something we do together.

My son being away from me stresses and worries me more then anything. My family means well but I have to remind them to brush his teeth, feed him more then cookies and ice cream, and not to keep him up till 1am in the morning. Ugh.

Lately, I've been thinking about how to move out of state and disappear. We'd find a nice area where it's not very expensive and I can either work part time or work from home. Then I can spend all the time I want with my son. Break free.

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7 comments:

Milcah says:
at: May 26, 2011 at 10:49 PM said...

I have that "syndrome" too. Even when my hubby wanted to go away for our anniversary, just the two of us last year it's like I couldn't be at total peace. My kids can drive me near insane it seems sometimes, but it's just not the same when they're not somewhere very near me.

Luna Raven says:
at: May 26, 2011 at 10:53 PM said...

I love that you feel that way! My mom loves us, but was always really too happy for us to go to uncles, grandparents etc.

It might make a difference if you just say that its a core value to you and that you really treasure your time with him. Perhaps then they would be more understanding.

Also, why don't they know junk food & late bed time is a no-no? I spoiled my nephews, but respected my sister's boundaries. Go get 'em lady!

michelle says:
at: May 27, 2011 at 8:58 AM said...

I know how you feel. I think I like a break in the abstract, but I spend all my "break time" worrying about my daughter and I'm happiest when she's harrassing me nearby!

Mommy to the Monsters says:
at: May 27, 2011 at 9:46 AM said...

I welcome my breaks and wish I had more.....but I have children with extreme behavior issues so I not only want breaks I NEED breaks to keep my sanity. I wish I felt like you.....

Kristi {at} Live and Love...Out Loud says:
at: May 30, 2011 at 1:02 AM said...

I think it's sweet that you want to spend so much time with Daniel. As a single working mother, I remember feeling the same way but since remarrying and becoming a stay-at-home mom, I find myself needing free time every now and then. I don't think either of our choices are wrong, just what we need in our specific circumstances. Enjoy all that time with Daniel. It goes by so fast...

Anonymous
at: June 6, 2011 at 8:18 PM said...

Leaving the state would deny him and you relatives. Set boundaries and allow family to love and enjoy him, too.

Amanda
at: June 17, 2011 at 12:58 AM said...

OMG thankgod I found someone like me xox my son is only 18 months and I an continually being told I'm need a break from him.. And when I say no I don't I looked at like I'm a freak! It's really starting to upset me and make
Me question if there is something wrong with me!