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Monday, February 15, 2010

The Reality of Being A Mom Blogger

Me a famous mom blogger? A friend of mine teases me by calling me that. Some people might think I am based on things I've done, places I've gone and people I've met. But this is SO not my reality. I am far from being a "famous" mom blogger.



It's weird to live one way but have people see my life in a totally different way. I think it's all about the perception. I was laughing with Ana (Quiskaeya) that people need to understand that I'm still black and struggling. I'm still the same at the end of the day.

Yes I attended a fancy media event for a large company. Yes I rubbed shoulders with Presidents of companies and famous "mom" bloggers. Yes, I get to shake hands and take photos with celebrity moms. But all of that is just for 2 hours! Don't be fooled by it all folks.

After that I come back home to my little studio apartment in Harlem (before it use to be a room I shared with family). I'm not hanging out with these people on the weekends. No celebrities are calling me to have brunch and a chat pool side. I still get my own groceries, do my own laundry and face the same struggles to make ends meet like other single moms.

People need to understand that I'm not making loads of money from blogging. Heck at the end of last month I barely paid all my bills. When I tell ya'll barely, I mean barely. Matter of fact, it cost me money and time to attend a blogger event. While a few events do provide a meal and care service, most don't so I have to pay my own transportation and food.

As for all expense paid blogger trips...I can't really speak about those. Yes, it's true I went on that Disney World trip but that was something out of a fairytale and amazing. Trips like that are not a regular thing. I still wonder what little wonderful bird told them to invite me for something like that. LOL.

But in my everyday life the reality is...my true focus is on providing for my son. My fame and status comes from being the best mother I can for him. My online friends tease me about being "famous" in connection with the blasian term and for blogging about Daniel. LOL. I doubt I'll be "famous" for being a mom blogger.

Do I mind? Not really. While the life of a "famous" mom blogger looks very appealing with all the trips, products and meeting famous people... my peek into that world taught me...in order to fit in, you have to live up to certain demands. As we all know I'm not one for fitting into demanding situations. LOL. So, for now I'm happy being just semi-famous :)

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4 comments:

Yakini says:
at: February 16, 2010 at 7:00 PM said...

Great post!!! I agree, everything that "glitters" isn't gold... and everything that appears so glamorous on the outside isnt always. You really summed this up well. :-)

Nicole says:
at: February 16, 2010 at 9:21 PM said...

Man, you keepin' it real girl! Loved this post!

NYCSinglemom
at: February 17, 2010 at 7:12 AM said...

You summed it up nicely. On the outside it does sound so glamorous and productive, right. I went to meet some ex colleagues a few weeks ago and they thought I was employed based on all my facebook posts.

Ms. Latina says:
at: February 17, 2010 at 12:45 PM said...

Being a Mom blogger may not rake in the donuts but it has its perks. I love that the kids and I get exposed to people and places we may not have visited. I even got to meet the "famous" Blasian Mom and am glad I did ;)

In the end, I have to say it widens our world if not our purses!