Our first 2011 New Year activity was to go on a play date. But this was a special play date since it would be with other blasian children. A few months back I meet Nicky who's a Japanese mom with 2 blasian boys. Our meeting was interesting because we both noticed the kids before we each other. LOL. Her son was rocking cornrows in his hair and my son was just...well...just being his usual friendly self. After confirming that we both had kids that were half asian and black, we chatted a bit, exchange numbers and made plans for a play date.
We texted and planned but for different reasons didn't get together. Recently we bummed into each other again last week and we promised to have that play date for sure this time. After some more texting we settled on a new year play date. She mentioned inviting the other moms with blasian kids in the area she knew. I thought that was funny since I've seen these moms and their kids but reaching out to them hasn't worked out so far. I think they don't trust that I'm really my son mom. LOL
After meeting Nicky, the other moms and their kids at the playground I let my son run wild and free. Daniel soon became another little boy running around in the snow with his friends. It was amazing to see him blend in. The other boys looked just like him with caramel skin tones, asian eyes, and semi curly blasian hair that didn't know which race to follow. Some hair were braided, some curly while others were wavy.
There was no weirdness about him looking asian, or that his mom looked different or any of that other stuff I have to deal with when he plays with monracial kids at the playground. They played with him as one of their own *tear*
It's important to me that Daniel sees other families and children like himself. From the start I want him to know and understand that he's not alone. That he is part of a larger community with others that look just like he does and it's normal and beautiful.
While the other moms weren't black, nor knew any other black women with blasian children in our area ( you know I asked them), they were accepting of me and Daniel. Well in truth the other two Japanese moms were still wary but not in a offensive way. One mom shared her sugar snap peas snacks with us. This has to be a Japanese thing. The other mom offered to babysit Daniel any time I needed break.
But it was Nicky who was most out going. We talked about daycare's, how to get our kids into the Harlem little league and general moms stuff like teaching our kids to speak an asian language. Nicky's eldest son understands Japanese but doesn't show an interest in speaking it like the other moms children. Of the three I'd say her and I had a better chance for forming a deeper bond beyond our kids.
As I stood with the mothers watching our kids make a mess in the snow, I felt and thought many things. The first thought was that this was the way it should be. That feeling of having a place to "fitt in" is why I started building the Euphoria Luv community. While there are tons of mixed race and interracial websites, groups, etc I find their not always as inclusive or racially educated as I hoped.
Since I continue to build my own community connections online and in real life, today Daniel and I had a chance to started the new year surrounded by acceptance and fun. What a great way to start our 2011 New Year.