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Monday, November 29, 2010

Should we start celebrating the holidays?

Can you believe the xmas trees are being brought out already? I was surprised when I saw them being sold in my neighborhood tonight. As we walked by my son was very curious about the trees. While he knows what tress look like, seeing them decorated with lights was new to him.

xmas tree

As we walked by, my son decided to stop and sight see. The lady selling the tress told me that I could give him a fallen branch from one of the trees being piled in the corner. Since the branches smelled good I took one and gave Daniel to sniff. Being a city kid when will he get a chance to smell a natural pine tree?! As I took a branch for my son I started thinking....

Should I get a tree? More to the point should I start a tradition for the holiday? While I personally don't celebrate Christmas or most of the other holiday what about him?

I've been dealing with the holiday issue since Halloween. Having to explain to his daycare why I didn't want him doing certain holiday related activities with his class wasn't fun. I'm sure they think I'm crazy and forcing him to miss out. So now the big major holiday is here...what to do?

In truth it's not really about Christmas. It's more about building our own traditions and bonding as a family. I know children enjoy having holiday childhood memories and I would like for my son to have some. But how can I do this as Buddhist mom? It's an interesting situation.

While I didn't get the tree, I did take a photo of him next to one. It will have to be enough for now. Meanwhile I'll keep thinking on the larger "should we celebrate holidays" issue and see what I come up with. Wonder what other families do....

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Thursday, November 25, 2010

Giving thanks for a diverse community

Today many are celebrating Thanksgiving with food and family. I am celebrating thanksgiving with the internet :) As some of you might know I'm not a big fan of the revised version of thanksgiving. I know what happened to those Native American that helped those pilgrims many years ago. While I usually boycott, this year I choose to honor those Native Americans and follow their example of accepting others into their community.


When I first started this community more then 10 years ago it was based on a connection I had with black women in relationships with asian men. Throughout the years it's grown to include asian women, black men in general, those with blasian heritage and even some white people. I know, I know but yes white people have also become part of my community.

I often wonder what moved those Native American's to include strangers into their community. They didn't have to share their food and knowledge. Of course I'll never know but I can sorta guess. Over the years as I branched out of my community into the wider world of diversity...I've learned and I've grown.

I've learned some amazing things in the most unexpected ways. I've watched a white women of an adopted blasian child struggle with awareness the same as black and asian mom from my community. I've seen others, East Indian, Latina, and diverse community of "others" offer support and encouragement as I struggle to establish my community.

I've seen the true meaning behind the idea of community based on a common goal not just skin tone...and I'm thankful for and every day after.

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Dinnertime Fun: Wordless Wednesday


At a recent blogger group dinner, the kids entertained themselves while the parents mingled

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