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Sunday, January 3, 2010

No, Not While The Baby Sleeps

I had a great idea to have a year in review post on all the fun things Daniel and I did this year. We've done some cool things, meet amazing people and had some funny experiences. I mean it's not every day the local McDonald's tries to giveaway Daniel to some random Asian man because they didn't think I'm his mommy. It's a funny story but my readers have to wait to hear about it because honestly I'm tired. No one told me as my son became more active I'd become more tired. What the heck?!

Over the holiday season I was checking in with my jewelry mentor. She tried getting me to have promotions to catch the holiday sales. I tried explaining to her that I have very little time to get most things done day to day. There was no way I had extra to put into my craft or holiday selling. I got very little support. Her answer for me to do it all? Do it when the baby is sleeping.

I have come to hate this saying and the naive people who say it. It seems so simple don't it? While the baby sleeps run around crossing stuff off your to-do-list as you magically complete tasks. But these people are usually either in their 20's (like my mentor) or have no children (again like me mentor). No other parent would dare utter those dreadful words and here is why

After caring for the demands of a child continuously for hours, when that same child takes a nap, this parent either also wants to nap or sit quietly starting into space. The last thing on my mind is project management of any sort. It's mentally tiring to figure out why he's crying this time, how to stop him from throwing things or why he insists on trying to open the front door. To switch gears from mommy to creative person is not that easy. Sometimes, I struggle just to put words together for this blog. To ask me to make jewelry or to think how to produce sales is a bit much.

I don't know how people think that such a great idea. Don't people think parents would love to do stuff "while the baby sleeps"? If they stopped to think about it, there's a reason why parents are tired and behind on projects even with all the napping our kids do. You see, while baby sleeps is the time for this parent to "breathe" and prepare for when baby wakes.


at: January 5, 2010 at 9:20 PM said...

AMEN SISTER! You hit the nail on the head. I thought I was the only one who used my son's naps to do nothing. I even felt a little guilty for not being more productive/needing time to rest before he was up and running (crawling) again. I'm so glad to know this is normal!

at: January 6, 2010 at 2:27 AM said...

can't wait to hear the mcdonald's story. it sounds funny already.

Yakini says:
at: January 6, 2010 at 8:05 PM said...

Yeah, I always chuckle when people talk about trying to accomplish all this stuff while the baby is napping. That is PRECIOUS, highly coveted time - and my priority is not always to get the dishes done or the floor mopped. Its often to relax/regroup so that I can have the energy to keep up with and give my son the 100% that he deserves when he's awake.

Ms. Latina says:
at: January 10, 2010 at 6:35 AM said...

Make sure you send me the link to the McDonald's story!

As for doing things when kids were asleep, it never worked for me. It always seemed like they would wake up just as I was getting steam! I had to teach them to let me work when they were awake, which of course meant neither was getting my full attention! In the end, I could only function when I had a babysitter LOL but I will tell you it gets easier as they get older =)