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Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Unwelcomed Unplanned Univited Guests

I woke up this morning to do my morning routine of trying to be productive. As I walk into the living room I see my 2nd sister and a female friend of hers sleeping there. I groan inward because this is not a new thing. I say a silent prayer that her guest don't stay long and continue my process. Then I hear a baby crying. Huh?

It's not my baby, this is a cry from a much younger infant. After a couple of minutes my 1st sister comes out to make a bottle, returns and the crying stops. Then a strange women comes out with a strange infant and starts walking around the living room. What the hell!

This happens all the time with my family. They're always inviting/helping out some friend over to where we're living without asking or informing. My mother hardly says anything because she's weak in control/influence when it comes to her children. Yeah I said it. It's true. My mother is SO not a strong parent figure.

So whats the problem? Two things. First my sisters can't help themselves so how they trying to help these other girls. It's always the same issue. Pregnant teenage girls who have issues with boys friends or mothers. The thing is they're problems tend to follow them here! The last girl here had to call the cops cause her baby father came over here causing trouble. She let him into the apt...without informing or asking anymore...and then homie started grabbing on her. I damn near had a fit!

The second issue is my sister always wants to show off my son like he's some damn freak show. I been meaning to blog about this for a while now. They're so proud of his "look" and always trying to show people their "Korean" nephew. This annoys the hell out of me so I always keep Daniel away from these "guests".

I don't like the way they always want to touch his skin, play with his hair or talk about how "Chinese" my son looks. What's more irritating is that my family can't catch a damn clue. You'd think after hearing me rant or seeing me hide away they'd get it. But nope they're still oblivious.

So I continue to hide and if they force the issue by trying to take my son to these "guest" then I become down right rude. This usually earns me an attitude from my sisters and their guest but hey...these people are no guest of me and my son's so to hell with them.


Dawna says:
at: December 9, 2009 at 7:15 AM said...

I would be as annoyed as you are! Bless your heart, I hope things get better soon.

Quiskaeya says:
at: December 11, 2009 at 12:30 PM said...

Oh girl that would irritate the crap out of me. Ugh. Growing up my parents' home used to be grand central station (as I called it) b/c guest were always coming and going. They were mostly colleagues of my parents. I always hated that we would have some unknown "guest" coming for dinner. So I feel your pain. LOL @ "Korean nephew"! Do they not understand that a biracial child's look is so unpredictable?? I haven't experienced that with family,but with strangers ARGH! Sickening!

humpsNbump says:
at: December 13, 2009 at 11:21 PM said...

All I can say is wow! You are a strong woman to put up with crazy guests that your sisters bring home. I can't imagine having to deal with that, and the drama that is associated with it.

But most of all, I'm stunned by how your sisters talk about your son's "exotic look". Don't know how I would deal with that.

~ humps

at: December 14, 2009 at 1:45 AM said...

I would be frustrated too! I feel frustrated just reading it! I don't think you are rude AT ALL to not want your son paraded around.